You know, life is not a straight line. It is not a set of milestones that everyone goes through on a schedule. It is not necessary to graduate from college by a certain age, start a family, or make a career. You don't have to get married at 25 and become a boss at 30.
You are allowed to retreat. You have the right to know what inspires you. You have the right to take time out. We often forget about this. We have been setting ourselves a program since school: to enter this university, to get a job. We go to work every morning, even if we don't really like it, because we feel the need to implement our program. We take the next step, then another, thinking that we are just filling out the checklist, and one day we wake up depressed. We feel overwhelmed and don't know why. This is how we destroy our life.
We destroy life by choosing the wrong person. Why do we need to speed up our relationship so badly? Why do we want to be with someone faster and not with someone? Trust me: love that is chosen from the convenience that grows from the need to sleep next to someone, which is determined by our need for attention, not passion, will never inspire you to get up at 6 in the morning and change the world. You need to strive for fundamental love - the type of relationship that makes us better every day.
“But I don't want to be alone,” we often say. Be alone. Eat alone, date yourself, sleep alone. This way you can learn more about yourself. You will grow, discover what inspires you, reflect on your dreams and beliefs. And when you meet a person who makes every cell of your body dance, you will be confident in him, because you will be confident in yourself. Wait. Please, I urge you to wait for love, fight for it, make efforts for it, because this is the most wonderful feeling that your heart can feel.
We destroy life by letting the past rule it. Some things inevitably happen to us. In everyone's life there are grief, confusion, days when we feel useless and unnecessary. There are moments that will stay with us forever, words that hurt us. We cannot let them determine their destiny - these are just moments, just words. If you allow every bad event in your life to change the way you view yourself, your worldview will become negative.
You are missing out on opportunities by convincing yourself that you're too stupid because you didn't get a promotion five years ago. You will miss out on love because you think you weren't good enough for your ex, and you won't be able to believe whoever says how beautiful you really are. It is a cyclical self-destructive process. If you do not allow yourself to pass by the events, words and feelings of the past, then you will always look at the future through the prism of regrets, reliving and nourishing them again and again.
We destroy life when we compare ourselves to others. The number of followers on Instagram does not diminish or increase your importance. The amount of money in your account does not affect your compassion, your intelligence, or your happiness. A person who is twice as rich as you does not have double value or double pleasure in life. We are so dependent on what our friends like, who everyone else is guided by, that it destroys ourselves. This creates an unhealthy need in us to feel important - even if we have to go over our heads in order to achieve illusory success.
We destroy life by not allowing ourselves to feel. We are all afraid of talking too much, feeling too deeply, showing people what they mean to us. Demonstrating to the person how important he is to you, you become vulnerable. Nevertheless, there is nothing wrong with that. There is something mesmerizing about those magical moments when you bare your soul and speak the truth. Tell this girl that she inspires you. Tell your mother how much you love her in front of her friends. Express your feelings. Open yourself up, don't let your heart go cold. Be bold in love.
We destroy life when we choose tolerant conditions. At the end of the day, do you feel glad to be alive? When we settle for less than we originally desired, we destroy our own potential and deceive ourselves. Perhaps the next Michelangelo is now sitting at his laptop and drawing up invoices on paper clips, because he needs to somehow pay the rent, or because it is convenient, or because it is simply acceptable. Don't let this happen to you. Don't destroy life in this way. Life and work, life and love are inextricably linked. We need to do extraordinary work, we need to look for extraordinary love. This is the only way we can live an extraordinary life.
You are allowed to retreat. You have the right to know what inspires you. You have the right to take time out. We often forget about this. We have been setting ourselves a program since school: to enter this university, to get a job. We go to work every morning, even if we don't really like it, because we feel the need to implement our program. We take the next step, then another, thinking that we are just filling out the checklist, and one day we wake up depressed. We feel overwhelmed and don't know why. This is how we destroy our life.
We destroy life by choosing the wrong person. Why do we need to speed up our relationship so badly? Why do we want to be with someone faster and not with someone? Trust me: love that is chosen from the convenience that grows from the need to sleep next to someone, which is determined by our need for attention, not passion, will never inspire you to get up at 6 in the morning and change the world. You need to strive for fundamental love - the type of relationship that makes us better every day.
“But I don't want to be alone,” we often say. Be alone. Eat alone, date yourself, sleep alone. This way you can learn more about yourself. You will grow, discover what inspires you, reflect on your dreams and beliefs. And when you meet a person who makes every cell of your body dance, you will be confident in him, because you will be confident in yourself. Wait. Please, I urge you to wait for love, fight for it, make efforts for it, because this is the most wonderful feeling that your heart can feel.
We destroy life by letting the past rule it. Some things inevitably happen to us. In everyone's life there are grief, confusion, days when we feel useless and unnecessary. There are moments that will stay with us forever, words that hurt us. We cannot let them determine their destiny - these are just moments, just words. If you allow every bad event in your life to change the way you view yourself, your worldview will become negative.
You are missing out on opportunities by convincing yourself that you're too stupid because you didn't get a promotion five years ago. You will miss out on love because you think you weren't good enough for your ex, and you won't be able to believe whoever says how beautiful you really are. It is a cyclical self-destructive process. If you do not allow yourself to pass by the events, words and feelings of the past, then you will always look at the future through the prism of regrets, reliving and nourishing them again and again.
We destroy life when we compare ourselves to others. The number of followers on Instagram does not diminish or increase your importance. The amount of money in your account does not affect your compassion, your intelligence, or your happiness. A person who is twice as rich as you does not have double value or double pleasure in life. We are so dependent on what our friends like, who everyone else is guided by, that it destroys ourselves. This creates an unhealthy need in us to feel important - even if we have to go over our heads in order to achieve illusory success.
We destroy life by not allowing ourselves to feel. We are all afraid of talking too much, feeling too deeply, showing people what they mean to us. Demonstrating to the person how important he is to you, you become vulnerable. Nevertheless, there is nothing wrong with that. There is something mesmerizing about those magical moments when you bare your soul and speak the truth. Tell this girl that she inspires you. Tell your mother how much you love her in front of her friends. Express your feelings. Open yourself up, don't let your heart go cold. Be bold in love.
We destroy life when we choose tolerant conditions. At the end of the day, do you feel glad to be alive? When we settle for less than we originally desired, we destroy our own potential and deceive ourselves. Perhaps the next Michelangelo is now sitting at his laptop and drawing up invoices on paper clips, because he needs to somehow pay the rent, or because it is convenient, or because it is simply acceptable. Don't let this happen to you. Don't destroy life in this way. Life and work, life and love are inextricably linked. We need to do extraordinary work, we need to look for extraordinary love. This is the only way we can live an extraordinary life.
